Adoption is a brave and loving choice for your future. Sometimes, life comes with curveballs, and you must choose what’s best for your child. Motherhood looks different for every woman.
Telling your children about placing your baby for adoption can be quite the challenge, but your choice of adoption is one worth explaining to them. Whether it’s financial hardship, single parenting, or another challenge you’re facing with an unexpected pregnancy, try to remain as open as you deem appropriate for the children you are raising at home.
Be Prepared Emotionally
Adoption is not always easy and can be an emotional rollercoaster, even when you’re confident that adoption is a loving choice. Before sharing your adoption decision with your children, it’s important to be emotionally in a good place yourself.
It helps to talk to someone you trust, whether a close friend, family member, or partner. Express your feelings and talk through the difficult questions to find peace. Remind yourself of the hopeful future your child will have along the way.
At LaVie Pregnancy Care Center, we’re here to help you better understand adoption and listen to your unique situation. We’re also here to provide you with a safe place to talk and find practical and emotional support.
Sharing Your Adoption Decision
While you are not obligated to explain yourself as an adult to your children, there is a way to remain honest about why you are choosing adoption for your current pregnancy. Use discretion and try to explain your circumstances in a way they will understand.
Before you talk with your kids, learn to speak about adoption correctly. Most people still believe adoption is “giving up” or “giving away” a baby. The truth is you are bravely deciding to give your child a life you cannot provide them.
Start brainstorming how to present the facts by answering these questions:
- Are you too young or too old to parent?
- Do you have the financial support you need?
- Is the birth father no longer in your life and won’t be co-parenting with you?
- Are you having difficulty raising other children?
- Can you continue your education or work while parenting?
- Is there a possibility your child will end up in foster care?
Once you decide what you want to share, break it down into simpler terms for your children. Your children may not fully understand your decision at the end of the day, but that’s normal.
Your children will most likely have questions. Do your best to answer them in a way they will understand and keep the conversation going throughout the adoption process and beyond.
More Adoption Information
If you’re still deciding if adoption is for you, or you need some moral support when sharing the news with your children, we are here for you.
Our team is happy to share more information and adoption agency referrals that will answer questions you might have as you seek the very best outcome for you and your child’s future.
Schedule a no-cost and confidential appointment today.